My view of my father comes through years of disappointment and years of him making up for it then disappointing again. Its not a new thing for me so it gives me a good perspective. Not to mention I am always able to disconnect myself from my own emotional issue to look at the big picture. My father did what he thought was right at the time. I didn't end up the messed up so I should thank him for getting me out alive and into a job I like and at least making sure I never doubted my self or my own chances of getting into a university and graduated near the top of my class. I can at least say in these respects he was a good leader, a good provider, just not a great, friends or emotionally giving parent.